We are curators of our own stories. We tell strangers stories about who we are through how we dress or interact in public. We choose what kind of stories we want to tell others about our lives through the photos and posts we put on our Facebook pages.
But we spend far more time and energy on telling ourselves stories. Whether we’re aware of it or not, thoughts are running through our minds all day long. It seems automatic–like something we can’t control. The thoughts that are always spinning through our brains often feel like truths. But are they? Or is it more complicated than that?
When I speak to other writers (and I’m incredibly guilty of this as well), they often say things like:
- I’m a slow writer.
- I don’t have time to write.
- I’ll never be as good as (that writer who is more successful than I am).
I use writers as an example because we’re an especially self-deprecating bunch. If these writers are telling me these negative stories, I bet the narratives in their heads are even worse.
- I’m wasting my time.
- I’m a terrible writer.
- I should quit.
But there is power in our words and thoughts. It may seem hokey, and it may seem uncomfortable, but one of the best things you can do to improve your life is to train yourself to tell yourself positive stories.
- I’m a great writer.
- I have a story to tell.
- I have plenty of time to spend on my writing.
But this doesn’t have to be about writing. How about these:
- I’m worthy.
- I have a lot to offer the world.
- I am smart, beautiful, and strong.
Because you are. Those stories are all true. So why not spend your time and energy on those thoughts? It will take time and practice, but it will change your life.